Go and cry out to the gods whom you have chosen; let them save you in the time of your distress.” (Jdg 10:14 ESV)
Before I do a wedding, I provide premarital counseling. One of the many things we discuss is the need to maintain vital friendships. She needs friends. He needs friends. They need friends.
Unfortunately, too many fall prey to the silly “romantic” ideas. You are all I need. You complete me. It’s us against the world. Our love will see us through any trial. We don’t need anyone else. The character(s) RichandAmy from the comic strip Zits is the classic obsessive, High School, clingy, make-you-want-to-puke relationship. They are together and hanging all over each other to the point that in the few times they are apart, no one can recognize them.
This is not “cute” or “sweet”.
We all need friends for the tough times (especially when our tough time is with our spouse). The problem is, it is really hard to “find” a friend when you are in the midst of the crisis. The time to make a friend is when you don’t need one. Because there will come a day when you will. It’s an investment worth making.
Boy, that was quite a ramble . . .
Why is it we feel justified to ignore God and chase after other things and then yell to Him for help when things go bad (even things He told us would go bad, but we did them anyway)? Like the friends that never see us until we need help moving, God becomes someone we use for our own convenience.